Dear Shamica
What’s on your mind?
Tell me what’s going on, in your own words. I’ll point you to letters and conversations Shamica has written about it, and help you write to her if you want a real answer.
An automated guide to Shamica’s letters and conversations. It isn’t Shamica, and it isn’t therapy. What you type here isn’t saved. In crisis? Call or text 988.
Dear Shamica
Ask the question you’ve been carrying around, about love, family, confidence, heartbreak or the in-between. Stay anonymous or sign your name. Some letters are answered publicly, always without identifying details.
Not sure how to put it into words?
Tell it what’s going on. It points you to letters and conversations Shamica has already written about it, asks one good question, and helps you turn it into a letter. Nothing you type is saved.
How it works
Share what’s happening, what you’ve tried and what you’re afraid of. Context helps Shamica give a thoughtful answer.
Sign it however you like. If you ask anonymously, your name and IP address are never stored.
Selected letters are answered publicly, edited for length and with identifying details removed. Not every letter can be answered.
The letters
“I have a good job, my own place, and people tell me all the time how proud they are of me. I worked hard for all of it. But lately I feel restless and…”
— Successful and Stuck Read Shamica’s response →“My mother calls me multiple times a day and gets upset if I don’t answer right away. I finally told her I can’t talk during work hours and I’ll call her in the evenings.…”
— The Villain, Apparently Read Shamica’s response →“I’m single and I date, but I usually lose interest after a few dates. My friends keep telling me I’m too picky and that I need to give people a chance. Maybe they’re right?…”
— Picky or Particular Read Shamica’s response →“We’ve been together two years. Every time I bring up moving in together or talking about the future, he says he’s not ready yet — work is stressful, he wants to be more stable…”
— Patient but Tired Read Shamica’s response →Browse by topic
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There’s no wrong question and no need for perfect words. Write it the way you’d say it to a friend who’s going to be honest with you.
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