Emotional Attachment
What Your Relationship Patterns Are Trying to Tell You
Different person, same ending? Patterns aren’t bad luck. They’re information, and once you can see them, you get a choice.
Life coaching · Personal growth · Honest conversation
Life gets complicated. Let’s talk about it honestly.
Dear Shamica is a space for life coaching, personal growth and honest conversations about relationships, confidence, boundaries, transitions and the complicated work of becoming.
Shamica Baxter — life coach, host and the voice behind Dear Shamica.
- Nuance over absolutes
- Growth over performance
- Conversation over judgment
- Clarity over confusion
- Perspective over rigid rules
What this is
A space to think out loud about the life you’re actually living.
Not a rulebook. Not a dating blog. Dear Shamica is where coaching, honest advice and real conversation meet. It’s about relationships, yes, and also about the person you are inside them, and the one you’re still becoming.
Life Coaching
One-on-one coaching for clarity, confidence, boundaries and the seasons when something has to shift.
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Letters & Conversations
Questions answered with honesty and care, plus writing on love, growth and why people do what they do.
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Media & Events
Panels, interviews, live conversations and community events, where the conversation happens out loud.
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Life coaching
For the seasons when you know something has to shift.
Maybe it’s a relationship, a career, a move, or just a quiet feeling that the life you built doesn’t fit anymore. Coaching gives you room to name what you want, see your patterns clearly, and follow through on the next right step.
- Clarity when you feel stuck
- Confidence you can build on
- Boundaries that hold
- Accountability without shame
- Navigating life transitions
- Relationship clarity
Latest conversations
Honest talk about love, life and growth.
Accountability
Confidence Is a Practice, Not a Personality
Confident people aren’t fearless. They’ve just collected enough evidence that they can handle what happens next.
Becoming
Rediscovering Yourself After a Season of Taking Care of Everyone Else
Raising kids, caring for a parent, holding everyone together: when that season ends, a lot of us look up and don’t recognize ourselves. Here’s where to…
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Ask the question you haven’t said out loud.
Relationships, family, confidence, heartbreak, the in-between. Write to Dear Shamica anonymously or with your name. Some letters are answered publicly, always without identifying details.
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Pick a thread. Pull gently.
The conversations cover the individual and the relationships around them, because you can’t really talk about one without the other.
The individual
Growth, confidence & becoming
Relationships & life
Love, connection & human behavior
There isn’t one rule for love, or for life. There’s attraction, timing, capacity, history, and the choices we make once we can finally see them clearly.The Dear Shamica philosophy
Upcoming
Come sit with us.
Panels, workshops and live conversations: real talk, in a room full of people figuring it out too.
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Meet Shamica
Hi, I’m Shamica. I ask the second question.
I’m a Memphis-based life coach, host and speaker, and a first-generation college graduate who learned early that nobody hands you the map. I studied psychology and communications at Tennessee State University and went on to earn an Executive MBA.
I’ve spent years helping people find their footing, from first-generation graduates breaking into their careers to veterans and people with disabilities working through real barriers. Dear Shamica is where all of that comes together: coaching, honest advice and conversations that don’t pretend life is simple.
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Coaching is a space to slow down, get honest about what you want, and build a plan you can actually keep. It starts with a conversation.
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